love hate tragedy
no no this is not about myself, nor is it about dear Paparoach. Please I don't even know how the album is like.Recently I came across a few articles about some relationship problem, from PH's blog and from the forum. Maybe I should say it is a phenomenon rather than problem, but my brain cells have been itchy for quite a while wanting to blog this down.
This is how it goes: A and B are lovers. B meets a new guy C and dumps A.
Second one: A and B are lovers. B meets a new guy C. B wants both A and C. C knows about A but A doesn't know about C.
Third one: A and B are lovers. B meets a new guy C and dumps A. C dumps B. A doesn't want B anymore. B gets nothing in the end.
Fourth one: A and B are about to get married, just counting down for the wedding day to come. Suddenly B marries another guy C.
-_-"
Of course there are more examples out there.
What do these phenomena show? From a sociology point of view, it shows that people are placing more and more emphasis on relationship. "... an increased determination to make it a rewarding and satisfying relationship" (Anthony Giddens, 2001) But... come on, it is like how people call it "mental masturbation", i.e. trying to make yourself feel good by looking for logical but not necessarily true explaination.
Let's look at more views from people with regards to relationship.
The only way to make the one you love happy is by living your life more happily than her. because only when you are happier than her, will you be able to spread your happiness to her
--- Wilson
In a relationship one side has to sacrifice more than the other.
--- Alex
Torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool. Loving both of you, is breaking all the rules
--- Mary McGregor (ok this one is out of point)
So, what do you say?
crap posted by chillycraps at
11:02 PM
7 Comments:
it takes two hands to clap in a relationship.. and it all boils down to the fact hoe much u're willing to sacrifice for your partner and how much you lover your partner.. it's all about sacrificing..
and definitely.. one party will have to love the other party more than wad the other party has to offer.. tat would make the relationship last a little longer.. and based on what I see from your examples.. those are pretty typical examples happening in daily lives.. not surprising.. cuz people tend to get bored of their relationship.. and choose another person..
it's our social structure and the mentality of the men and women in this society..
wonderin why everyone's talkin bout relationship here.. haha.. my other fren also talkin bout himself not liking girls anymore.. cuz he cannot tahan them.. then thinkin about turning gay.. haiz.. serious social problems these days..
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DJ Niwde, at 9/12/2005 09:38:00 AM
May be its the age...
In general, there are several phases that each man goes through. Kinda like one of the phases is the "Mid-Life" Crisis.... of coz, now I'm hearing about the "quarter-life" crisis.
I suppose another thing to realise is that, perhaps we are luckier.... in a materialistic world, many of us are consider well to do, unless those low 20% who lives from hand to mouth, they would less likely be pondering on relationship problems, perhaps more so on survival needs.
Yah... so whilst I'm also talking about relationships/friendships, I do recognise that even being abit to be complaining about it, might really be a priviledge that many do not have.
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Alex Wong, at 9/12/2005 01:00:00 PM
probably true.. well.. it all depends on individuals.. on how they look at relationships.. so it all boils down to yourself lor..
i guess it's because of age.. we are growing each day and we are maturing each day.. and you can see with wad we post.. really.. it's taking a turn in terms of content..
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DJ Niwde, at 9/12/2005 05:29:00 PM
I agree on some of the points you guys made.
People are bored with the status quo. They want to find thrills, to find ripples in a peaceful lake.
On the other hand, a liberal society makes people spoilt by freedom. People are aware of their freedom, but in the process it is creating a wider spectrum of possible outcomes than before.
Look at a traditional Chinese family in rural China. Most marriages are pre-arranged. I won't say the couples don't love each other, but neither are they in deep love. Marriage is seen as a social duty, an economic need to increase the workforce, and a family obligation to continue the family root.
The priviledge that Alex talks about may well be a double-edged sword.
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chillycraps, at 9/12/2005 06:07:00 PM
u see.. people are always never satisfied.. remember.. econs.. men have unlimited wants.. ya.. supply is limited.. demand is unlimited.. so think of it this way lor..
pre-arranged marriages is like all settled for you.. so there are pros and cons lor.. but it is like wad u said.. viewed more as a social duty.. rather than two person loving each other..
regardin the double edged sword.. yep.. true also.. got gf or no gf.. also got advantages and disadvantages.. it depends on how u see it lor.. but in anyway.. i have left everything to fate.. if she's mine.. and really mine.. then she's mine.. but if not.. then nvm lor..
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DJ Niwde, at 9/12/2005 11:02:00 PM
something to add on...
"kill the man, rape my girlfriend, with my rifle and my buddy and meeee"
do it the army way.. (just kidding though)
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chillycraps, at 9/13/2005 05:29:00 PM
ORD loh.. wad's that song again??
hmm.. forgot liaoz.. hahahahahaahahahaha..
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DJ Niwde, at 9/13/2005 10:21:00 PM
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