vicious cycle
Let's look at this situation:
1) A thinks a lot cos A thinks that B doesn't like A;
2) B dares not like A cos A thinks too much.
How to solve?
Because of family, B cannot like A. On the other hand, A always feels that B is cheating A's feelings. At the same time, B feels that A is not being truthful some of the time, but those were mostly white lies. B knows that B cannot commit, so B requests to be normal friends with A, but A just cannot treat B as normal friends, and continue to expect B to treat A as more-than-normal-friends. A said something hurting and insulting to B on MSN, B tried not to flare up by deciding to go offline, then A is unhappy. A still doesn't know that B feels hurt.
How to solve?
1) A thinks a lot cos A thinks that B doesn't like A;
2) B dares not like A cos A thinks too much.
How to solve?
Because of family, B cannot like A. On the other hand, A always feels that B is cheating A's feelings. At the same time, B feels that A is not being truthful some of the time, but those were mostly white lies. B knows that B cannot commit, so B requests to be normal friends with A, but A just cannot treat B as normal friends, and continue to expect B to treat A as more-than-normal-friends. A said something hurting and insulting to B on MSN, B tried not to flare up by deciding to go offline, then A is unhappy. A still doesn't know that B feels hurt.
How to solve?
crap posted by chillycraps at
8:09 PM
13 Comments:
thought that it was some sort of critical thinking game
hehe
anyway
how come it seems that a and b are not communicating...err, weird like those tv shows haha..
honesty is always the key thats all i can say :P
and yeah B should be more open up to..the others
hope it helps :)
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Anonymous, at 5/07/2006 12:36:00 AM
errrm stranger here.
but anws
it seems that A and B cares very much for each other.
a lot a lot
therefore all the misunderstndings.
A likes B a lot thus A will expect more out of the friendship.
hopefully B and A are not angry with each other and sort things out properly.. sometimes girls say things they dont mean. yupppp
from a stranger's pt of view. =)
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Anonymous, at 5/07/2006 01:49:00 AM
been in a similar position before, what happened was that we took some time off each other, then let our lives carry on from there, later meeting new people, and well, still friends, but there'll still be the scar.
and of course leaving behind trails of what ifs and possibilities of regret.
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xxoos, at 5/07/2006 03:42:00 AM
a lot of think this think tat.. assumptions!!!!
commmunication is the key.. prob if A and B open up nicely to each other.. meaning.. being truthful.. and really communicate well enough.. i guess this matter can be resolved..
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DJ Niwde, at 5/07/2006 07:45:00 AM
thanks for your words!
as far as I know, the entry is mostly based on what B feels, so it can be pretty one sided.
which is because there is a lack of communication....?
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chillycraps, at 5/07/2006 09:54:00 AM
very complicated...like movie..but, I feel for B....sometimes because of family or other factors we dont dare to like the person that we like..A dont know how B feel..It's just a misunderstanding..what they need is just a "talk"..Like all they have said communication is very powerful tool.One way communication or assumption is like never ending story..
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Anonymous, at 5/07/2006 02:48:00 PM
B doesn't have the courage to tell his/her own family how B wants to live his/her life.
I'm pretty sure no matter who takes the place of A, A still won't find what he/she wants, since B doesn't have the courage to change.
although it can be said it's all B's excuses...
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chillycraps, at 5/07/2006 04:19:00 PM
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gie_chloe, at 5/08/2006 12:22:00 PM
Talk it out talk it out!
Assumption is the number one killer of relationships. Don't keep everything to oneself especially in times like this. Kek-sai will do you no good.
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gie_chloe, at 5/08/2006 12:23:00 PM
thanks missybrowneyes!
the problem lies mostly with B, think B will take this time to reflect upon him/herself.
A is already very tolerant...
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chillycraps, at 5/08/2006 07:15:00 PM
I'm not tolerant. I'm very not understanding. Appreciate you taking time to write this entry.
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Anonymous, at 5/08/2006 09:14:00 PM
omg, A appears!!
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chillycraps, at 5/08/2006 09:25:00 PM
told u.. dun assume..
when u assume.. u make an ass out of u n me.. which is why.. in interpersonal relationships.. dun assume.. assumptions are always most of the time wrong.. no joke..
By
DJ Niwde, at 5/09/2006 12:33:00 AM
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